C'est La Vie

C'est la vie is a French saying, meaning: "That's life".

Hey! I've just got home from school today, oh this week is really hectic and hard for me because exam already begin. hmm, ok back to topic. When I've just got home, I realize one thing I used to ignore. Some individuals, are capable or choose to be able to hide their feelings instead of showing them. And the better they hide it, the more fragile will they become.

The point is, perhaps you are considered as a kind and a strong human being within your pack of friends, because you don't say things much and you mostly just listen and people love being around you because you don't talk about your feelings all the time and put them in suffer of thinking of a way to help you out, but you better realize; and better now, that not speaking up the truth won't hurt others, but it's hurting you from within.

Now the question is.. who do you care more? Your friends? Or yourself?

I think you should care more about yourself. That sentence has nothing to do with being selfish.

Know this.. the better you take care of yourself, the better you can take care of others. The better you consider yourself valuable, the better you value people. And the better you put love into your life, the better love you can put into others.

It sucks. I know. Sometimes all you want to do is be a good friend and being selfish aren't exactly buying you the money in the bank, but ask again.. 

Would you want someone who doesn't care about who you really are, forbid you from being true to yourself?

Perhaps these friends aren't true friends at all. Life doesn't suck. Life is complicated. Suck is an absolute state of mind.

But complicated has a way.

C'est la vie.

Stop being Sad.

The first thing I learn about being sad: it's very easy to be sad. And 7 days ago I'm really sad because of some problems that happened when I was very happy and yeah the truth is, many things in this world can bring you down although you're was really happy. That's just the fact. Too many, actually. There are always times when things don't go the way you want, and it makes you upset, then you get sad, frustrated, and depressed. That's very natural. It often happens to me. However, I also learn another thing about it: you don't have to stay being sad if you don't want to. The question is, why do you let yourself be sad? Do you like to feel that way? If don't, why don't you stop it?

You don't have to stay being sad if you don't want to.

Perhaps, some of you will say, "I don't want to be sad, but I just can't help it. This feeling just come to me without permission."

True, sadness is a feeling, and any feeling can come anytime, even when you don't invite them. But you don't always have to follow your feelings! Especially when they just make you feel worse. Don't play with it! Let it go. Don't keep it inside you.

I know it's like impossible not to think about it when things go wrong, especially when those thing are very important to you. To be honest, I'm also a kind of person who is very easy to feel that. But, there's a point when I realize that focusing on all those things doesn't make it better. It doesn't lead me to the solution. It just makes my life look more complicated.

Why do you let yourself feel sad if you don't like it?

I once felt so sad and it was really frustrating, then I asked to myself, "Why do you let yourself feel that way if you don't like it?" I took some time to think, and I finally answered my own question, "Right! Why do I punish myself like this? Why am I so stupid? If I don't want to feel sad, all I need is to stop it. I just have to stop focusing on things that make me sad. After all, it doesn't change anything."

When you decide to stop feeling sad, you change your perspective. That's the time when you can start to think about things that make you happy. If there are many things that can make you sad, there are many things that can make you happy too! Don't say you can't find it. The only reason why you can't find it is because you still focus and don't let go of things that make you sad. It doesn't have to be a big thing to make you happy. There are many simple things around you will do. For me, I just simply inspiring people a little bit, Youtube - ing, blogging, enjoy my "me quality time", read my favorite book. It does work for me. Yours may be different. Watching movies? Working out? Listening to your favorite songs? Just do your favorite things.

Why do you spend time for things that make you sad when you can spend it for things that make you happy?

So, what are you waiting for? Stop being sad. If you want to feel happy, now is the best time to feel happy. You don't need all things to be perfect to make you happy. You can always find that happiness because it is inside you. Sometimes you just forget to feel it.

So, have a good time friends :)

Thank You.

There are many things going on right now. In my mind and in my life. This year has not been any easier for me, and these past few months are quite the hardest ones. I fell, a lot. It's like life is weighing all of the world's burden on my shoulder. But by seeing myself on both top and bottom, I've understood more about people and life. I've seen who is true, who isn't. Who is honest, who is fake. Who does matter, who does not... I have to admit that I've, well, changed. It's not that I have lost my cheerfulness and joy, but it's just that since my Grandma left and since all these situations dragged me in, I've learned not to trust people that much again not to think that everyone is kind. And this state of mind somehow built a wall in front of me, creating a bordered space for myself. Because some feelings do not have to be shown, and some problems are better to be kept for yourself. Right? But oh well, there are some significant persons in my life that I do still trust much. Even in your darkest thought, there are some persons who truly care. Not many, and sometimes they don't do something spectacular to prove that they are true, and they also don't solve your problems. They simply just be there, being a friend whom you can always find when you turn your back against everything, being a friend who constantly comforts you by accompanying you, hearing your stories, or making you laugh, then ensures you that even though things can get as bad as it can be, everything will always be okay in the end. I thank God endlessly for blessing me with such great friends. (Yes, I'm now talking about persons). Friends who cares about my future and my dreams, friends who still believes that I'm a good person even with my bad sides, friends who never fails to make me laugh, friends who teaches me a lot of things, friends who wants the best for me, friends who is happy when I'm happy. Yes, friends like you.

"You have given so much happiness to others, that you deserve to have your wish come true."

~The Blue Fairy (Pinocchio)

"A friend should be one in whose understanding and virtue we can equally confide, and whose opinion we can value at once for its justness and its sincerity."

~Robert Hall